Rejection at its highest level or immaturity?

It's interesting because as we grow up, it's only natural that for most normal human beings, we also grow in our awareness of self and those around us.

For those who grow up being ostracized by their peers because of the way they look, talk or behave, as victims they have all the right to flare up and react. Just look at the primary school kids, teenagers and even working adults around you. As an educator, I have seen that from the youngest of age right up to adults.

Of course, let's not forget about those who made blunders and their acts were forever edged in the minds of many. What follows next is obviously the teasings and whatnot. Of all the suanings I have given and received, majority are friendly, some were simply out to get back at me, but rarely were they malicious.

For the uninitiatived, they often sweep these issues under the carpet and 'move on', thinking that maturity would take the place of a simple 'I'm sorry for teasing you'. Unfortunately, from experiences not of my own and through honest sharings from numerous students and living beings, that is just not the case. Sometimes, a simply apology means the world to them. To a more matured man, he would understand that an apology is sweeter than harbouring the bitterness and anger.

The sad truth about human beings is the inability to properly manage emotions. That has obviously watered down to our generation of youths. You produce your own fruits. Thus, when the apology does come, you either respond with a smile and know that the other party is out to make peace despite having to humble himself and take the first step in stretching out that right hand; OR you can just walk away.

The latter response would result in a tougher situation for reconciliation to take place in the future lest maturity overtakes the individual and helps him understand the eroding cum biting effects of unforgiveness. The same response can also imply guilt and therefore, I don't want to face it and rather walk away.

I have had my first taste of attempt in reconciliation only to be rejected straight in the face. (say wow!)

Oh my...am I ok? Yes, thanks to the calm and logical thought patterns I chose to maintain and friends who helped me see the possible roots behind that response. Upset? That's normal, but only for a while. Worried? Yes, but not about myself.

Boy, that was an experience. And writing this can only confirm that I have done the right thing in humbling myself to take the first step in openly stating an apology. What follows after that is all history that will one day be brought into light again.

I thank God for such an experience now, who knows I might encounter such a situation in the future? At least now I know the appropriate response I ought to give if I'm ever in the position to cast a stone.