Shapes??

Do we shape our lives or do our lives shape us?

Someone mentioned that the two are pretty balanced and cannot come to a conclusion. Don't we shape our lives by the choices we make?

If you do not choose to shape your life, then you're like a boat being tossed and turned by the waves and winds. These experiences shape you.

However, if you so choose to shape your life, then you're like a boat that is steered towards a harbour. The winds, waves, storms and everything along the way would surmount to the experience you get as you shape your life.

So, do we shape our lives or do our lives shape us?